New Year, new us! New goals, ground rules wishes, hopes, and dreams for enhanced relationships. As Amos 3:3 states, “How can two walk together unless they are agreed upon?”
- Each person should make a list of the things they feel will enhance the relationship.
- One person shares their change request and discusses ONLY one issue at this time allowing their mate to do the same.
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The speaker lets the listener know what they want concerning the request by putting it in the correct category. For example; I would like to discuss, which is limited autonomy or I would like to have total autonomy, or we must agree on what we do on the weekend. Next, the speaker shares why they want what they want on the weekend. In this case … I would like to wash clothes, rest, and prepare for the following week.
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The listener listens and repeats what they heard the speaker say, checking for understanding and remembering information reaches our emotions first and then the logic.
- If tempers flare, call a time-out and visit later giving information time to reach the logic part of the brain. Refer to lesson one “Setting a firm foundation” for more information.
- The Goal: Unity in your union by agreement. Matthew 18:19 Answered Prayer “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.
Things to think about:
Eating out... Personal time... Pets ...Budget... Date night... In-laws ...Visitors ... Clothes ...Tithing
Personal time ... Charitable giving ...Television ...Money...Health & Fitness ...Friends ... Home ... Sex
Large purchases ...Food ...Schedules ... Where we live ...Work ...Holidays ...Investments ...Hair Styles ... Car
House chores ...Religion ...Parties ... Vacation ... Discipline Children
taken from P.A.I.R.S / Provided by Wisdom For Couples